by Michelle Buford
From Oprah.com
"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves," writer Edna Buchanan once said.
I consider the "family" I've gathered -- with five kinds of pals I count on for completely different things -- among the wisest choices I've made. If you can find even one who embodies any of the characteristics that follow, you can consider yourself fortunate.
The Uplifter: This woman's favorite word: yes. You could tell her you're trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she'd barely pause before yelping "Go for it!" Don't you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?
The Travel Buddy: When the hotel in St. Lucia is a bust, one characteristic becomes all-important: flexibility. This agreeable companion need not be the girl you traded pinkie swears with on the playground; it's enough that she's comfortable with quiet (between gabfests) and is a teensy bit mischievous (as in tequila after midnight).
The Truth Teller: Intent is what separates the constructive from the abusive. Once you've established that the hard news is spoken in love (not in jealousy or malice), you'd be smart to seek out this woman's perspective.
The Girl Who Just Wants to Have Fun: One Saturday a pal and I -- and yes, we're both over age 12 -- pored over every glitter lip gloss in a drugstore aisle for an entire 45 minutes. Forget the crisis download (for that, see the Uplifter); this partnership is about spontaneous good times.
The Unlikely Friend: "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive," Anaïs Nin wrote. My friends -- some twice my age, others half, some rich, others homeless, some black like me, others Korean, Mexican, Caucasian -- have added richness to my life that only variety can bring.
In the comments: Which friend are you? Which of your friends fit into these categories?
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5 comments:
Ok, then, I'll go first:
I think Jenny is the Uplifter (I think this friend should have been called the "Wonderbra.")
Travel Buddy is JNC and Oodles. I'm hoping that CMW will also move into this role.
Truth Teller: JNC and Hoov, definitely.
GWJWTHF: Probably Nat, because we end up laughing so much, even at work. Also DRJU.
Unlikely Friend: Maybe CLA because our lives are pretty different but our personalities are similar. Also Mary.
Are those the only categories? hmmmm.
Mine are:
Travel Buddy: the redhead, and SSS
Truth Teller: I have a few people who do this in different areas.
sparly nail polish: lots of people.
unlikely: the members of the Friday Nite Ladies Drinking Club
I am currently taking applications for the Wonderbra
Acutally, now that I think about it, most of my truthtellers are also uplifters.
Yep, I'm definitely the wannabe travel buddy. I'm planning on a trip next spring - don't let me down! :)
Not sure if I fit into any other category... maybe truth teller?
My sister saw something similar in some parenting magazine about the 5 friends you should have as a mother. I have a feeling it's a different un-oprah-ized list, but found this one interesting too.
Score one for me for being a travel bud- yes! :)
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